I
feel upset every time I hear someone
giving counter productive and ridiculous
advice about marriage. I don’t claim to
be an expert on marriage, but I can
still tell if the advice I’m hearing is
good information or pure nonsense.
Marriage advice is available to those
who need it, but sadly, a lot of it is
no good. Even the most qualified
professional can give tainted marriage
advice because they may have their own
agenda.
A friend of mine is
pretty much at the end of her marriage.
She’s very devoted to her religious
roots, and has made every effort to save
her marriage. The problem is that all
the marriage advice and counseling that
she has received from different people
for over four years has not helped her
marriage. I find myself getting upset
whenever she shares the marriage advice
she has received with me.
If you belong to a
church, you should probably go to your
pastor or priest for marriage advice.
However, you still have to consider the
source, even if these people can be
great sources for advice and counseling.
You see, unless someone is in danger,
they will never tell you that perhaps
the entire affair was a mistake to begin
with.
It is quite obvious
to me that my friend is in a hopeless
situation, but her pastor will not tell
her this. The marriage advice he gives
will urge her to remain with her
husband, unless her life is threatened.
What I’m trying to
say is that you should take marriage
advice and counseling from more than one
source. Move on if you don’t like what
you are hearing. If you find someone who
tells you that a wife should bow down
and be miserable for the sake of her
husband, then that person is not seeing
both sides.
And if a woman
counselor seems to be bitter towards men
in general, you are going to see this in
the advice on marriage she gives. Try to
think clearly about what someone is
saying to you no matter how miserable
you may be.
